My sister is dating a loser
But just because somebody should do something doesn’t mean they will, for whatever reason. ;) But be that as it may, it does bother you and my bet is that you are trying to figure out a way to address it without making him defensive or damaging the relationship.
My feeling is that you should take this as an opportunity to learn how to deal with this sort of thing… First and foremost, get a handle about how you feel about it.
It’s not the last time that it will happen and I can tell you that as good as I try to be, I’ll occasionally do what you’re talking about… A trap that I see a lot of couples fall into is that one person is annoyed by what the other one is doing, but instead of figuring out a constructive way to address it, they just hold resentment towards the other person to a degree.
When I say address it, I don’t necessarily mean talking it out.
We don’t like chit-chat if it’s not towards a purpose, it’s just not how we’re wired.
I would say that if he says he’s going to text or call you, he should do that…
It makes me feel unloved but I don’t know how to let him know that without him getting mad.
He’s like “Oh yeah, I’ll text you tomorrow.” Then he doesn’t!
Guys, lovable as we can be, usually like to use the phone to make a plan and that’s that.My boyfriend and I have been going out for about three months now.We’ve already had sex and I think we took it way too fast.He won’t get defensive if you put it in these terms. He still came over , he still made love to me and he still called me every day . he would just do and say things he know he should not say , things he would have never said when he first met me. We have had a great relationship with no argument or fights ever…
On the other hand, you definitely do NOT want to come from a place of blaming, assuming or attacking. He talked about his plans for our life, wanted me to meet his family. 6 to 7 months later he goes to visit his family do to a death in his family. So he tells me he just want to be friends right now until he get things together. He said he will not talk to anyone else and ask me not to as well. He became jealous when I went out with another guy. He still saying he loves me and blowing kissing good bye. I just stop being his priority and did not feel special anymore. only the lack of feeling like he wanted me as much as I wanted him. These articles are right, very good and I believe them.
It’s better to just think about what’s happening and where you’re coming from in all of it. But when they consistently do the same thing and it is something that just doesn’t work for me and I feel like it’s reasonable for me to expect it, I do bring it up. He said he loved me, bought me a ring ( not the ring!