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And he's as delighted for me as I am grateful to him for clearing my head of the bad relationship habits monogamy led me into.
No more jealousy or competitiveness, no hiding my feelings about issues in case my boyfriend just agrees with me and ends it.
I stopped resenting other women or seeing them as competition, because I wasn't going to lose what I had if he was with them, too. His wife would know about me (she is just as active in the poly world as he is), and he didn't think he could be in love with two people at the same time.
As a result, I'm much more at ease with other women than I was before, which is a good thing for every aspect of my life, not just my current relationship. Expectations are everything When I first got involved with Charles, he outlined the small print. With my expectations managed, I didn't run into brick walls trying to make the relationship something it wasn't. Friendship, support, great sex, an emotional connection, but not "love." In my new relationship, the scope of my expectations is wider and deeper, but one thing I know will never happen is living in the same place.
Charles and I never did the couple-y, lounge around in unflattering clothes part -- and it made each meeting spark. It's not a competition I've always felt like past boyfriends compared me to other women.
Some of them directly pointed out attractive women who were thinner, younger or, in one case, more innocent-acting than me.
I'm not secretly hoping he'll change his mind the more he falls in love, which means not storing up disappointment for the future. The end isn't The End Poly relationships have more ebb and flow and more overlap.The truth is that staying monogamous is a challenge.